10 Important Things You Should Know About Divorce

By Lois G. Schwartz | March 11, 2022

10 Important Things You Should Know About Divorce

Are you considering filing for divorce but not sure what to expect? You’re not alone. Divorce marks the end of a marriage and the closure of one of life’s chapters, but in reality, it opens up a new world of possibilities. 

However, moving forward with divorce can be scary, especially if it’s your first time. Here are 10 things you should know about divorce before you get started:

1. No One Wins a Divorce Case

A lot of couples go into their divorce proceedings hoping to win. Most divorces don’t end up with one spouse “winning.” The divorce process may include dividing assets and property and figuring out child custody and support. Whereas one spouse may end up with more assets or property, another may get custody of the children. There is almost always a trade-off somewhere.

2. Divorce Often Affects Kids in Some Way

Children deal and cope with divorce in different ways. However, regardless of how amicable the divorce is, it’s important to remember that this is a huge life-changing thing for them, too. Try to be a little more patient with them during the divorce. Check in with them often after the divorce is complete.

3. It’s Important to Make Your Own Decisions

Similar to becoming a new parent, you’ll find that your divorced friends and family will line up to give you advice. In many cases, this information is inaccurate and it’s best to work with a lawyer who can advise you on what works best for you, your children, and your unique situation. 

4. It’s Best to Avoid Fast Decisions

We often recommend giving yourself ample time to consider big decisions. Divorce will force you to make many, important life-changing decisions.

5. Working With a Negotiator Can Be Stress-Relieving

A divorce involves dividing all the assets and belongings you and your spouse have acquired during your marriage. Even if you both have a pretty good idea of what you want versus don’t want, a negotiator can help you prioritize your assets. A negotiator is a third-party person skilled in negotiation who doesn’t have an invested interest in either party.

6. Self-Care is More Important Than You Think

Even the most amicable of divorces can be stressful. Self-care during and after your divorce is so important. Be patient with yourself and find a few hobbies that you can use to de-stress. Try not to take on more than you can handle. 

7. Going Through a Divorce Can Be Expensive

Going into your divorce knowing that the process can be expensive can help you manage your expectations. While there are ways to reduce the costs, there is always a cost to divorce.

8. Honesty is Important

Honesty is important when going through a divorce. This means being honest with yourself and your lawyer. It can also be helpful to be honest with your ex-spouse about what you want and why. 

9. Taking Inventory of Your Assets Can be a Good Starting Point

If someone were to ask you right now which items in your house are most important to you, you may have a hard time making a list. Taking inventory of your assets before dividing them can be a good starting point.

10. Work With a Lawyer You Trust

You’ll work closely with your divorce lawyer. For this reason, it may be worth it to spend a little extra time interviewing potential divorce lawyers until you find one that you trust.

Contact a Cherry Hill Family Law Attorney for a Consultation About Divorce in New Jersey Today

If you are thinking about filing for divorce, or if you have already started the divorce process and are dealing with another matter such as child custody, child support, or division of assets, you need to speak with a qualified attorney. Family law attorney, Lois Garber Schwartz, Esq. represents clients throughout the state, including Cherry Hill, Haddonfield, Mt. Laurel, and Moorestown. She understands how challenging this time can be for you, which is why she will fight hard to protect your interests, and the interests of your loved ones, throughout the legal process. Call her at (856) 482-8799 or fill out our confidential contact form to schedule a consultation. She has an office conveniently located at 1040 Kings Hwy N #202, Cherry Hill, NJ 08034.

The articles on this blog are for informative purposes only and are no substitute for legal advice or an attorney-client relationship. If you are seeking legal advice, please contact our law firm directly.

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